Everyone has been abused.

• PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE is when you fall down and your mother or school teacher says, "Nothing happened. It does not hurt." It is also Psychological Abuse when your mother says, "Just wait until your father gets home!" Or when your father is alcoholic and abusive and your mother does not leave him and take you with her. Psychological Abuse is when you are sent into a school system where false 'authorities' tell you what you should learn and when you should learn them, then they grade you while deceiving you about some kind of connection between 'good grades' and a 'good job'.
• EMOTIONAL ABUSE is when you feel sad or you feel scared and your father or uncle says, "Big boys don't cry. Indians feel no pain. Stop being a Scaredy Cat!" Or your mother says, "Don't spoil the mood, honey. Your make-up will run... you need to look pretty."
• ENERGETIC ABUSE is when your mother or father invade your Bubble Of Space in order to control and dominate you, when your privacy is not respected, or when you are forced to bow down to hierarchical 'authorities' in institutions such as a church, school, government, or business. 
• PHYSICAL ABUSE is when your family and institutions feed you sugary manufactured foods full of GMO corn syrup, artificial flavors, food colorings, and preservatives, and call it 'food', or when your mother hits you with a wooden spoon or your father hits you with a belt or his hand, or a 'teacher' or 'nun' hits you with a ruler or a stick, instead of responsibly dealing with their own unconscious Aggression, Reactivity, and Gremlin shit. (It is NOT true that negative attention is better than no attention at all...)
• Sexual Abuse is when your are forced or seduced into sexual energy exchange or sexual contact against your own will. Sexual Abuse is media, films, porn, and computer sex that plants images in your brain that are so strong and so far away from reality that you cannot have real sex anymore.

Abuse is so rampant in the capitalist patriarchal empire that it is the standard.

Especially Sexual Abuse.

There are two main reasons:

1. The unspoken Rules Of Engagement in any patriarchal Gameworld state: Men own women and children. Women and children are mere sex objects in the patriarchy. 
2. In patriarchal culture, both women and men remain uninitiated adolescents, no matter how old they are. Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes - which should begin when a human being reaches eighteen years of age - were banished from the patriarchy some 6000 years ago. You are not initiated into evolutionary Adulthood.

A third reason also helps explain the question: psychopaths. The governance bodies in modern civilization are all hierarchical. This is a design error, because hierarchical power structures automatically select for psychopathic behavior.

Why? Because psychopaths are those most skilled at doing 'whatever it takes' to climb up the power structure of any hierarchy. By now this should be painfully clear.

This also models how males are sexually abused in patriarchy. To bolster their failed identity, those further up the hierarchy sexually abuse those lower in the hierarchy. Think of priests and altar boys... hidden for so many decades...

What this means is that there is no hope of creating a better world within the patriarchy. Modern culture is functioning perfectly well, exactly as designed, and defending itself with police, corporate corrupted politicians, and the military.

No matter how many good-hearted intelligent proposals are submitted to government, they will never be implemented, because creating a bright future for humanity is not on the psychopathic agenda.

Abuse is the norm in patriarchy. Healing your sexual abuse will involve you personally exiting the patriarchy.

A male baby is forced to make a choice at birth: join the patriarchy, or die. Why die? Because there is no other option.

Women have no idea about the extreme pain of the sacrifice of one's self, vision, future, if a man chooses to join the patriarchy.

Some men try to de-masculate themselves in whatever way they can.

Some mothers try to help them... What other choice does a woman have? Either she can destroy the boy with ridicule and not so subtle aggression, fear, hatred, and revenge. Or she can over coddle him into being a 'nice boy', someone who would never do to a woman what so many men have done to her.

As a boy, you know which path your mother chose.

Having to choose to join the patriarchy or die causes such immense pain that many babies choose to die rather than endure giving up their life plan and live the false identity of being a patriarch in the patriarchy. Doctors call it 'sudden infant death syndrome' (SIDS). Now we know more about what is really going on.

Entering the patriarchy means to leave everything behind, gifts, treasures, your Pearl, your Bright Principles, your Archetypal Lineage, and then try to fit in. Be like the other 'men'. Abandon your desire for Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes. Play your role in the mafia. Fighting to rise up in the command-and-control patriarchal hierarchies in society, being part of the problem on planet Earth, abandoning any hope of being part of the changes that are so needed.

By leaving behind everything of value you become small enough to fit through the 'Eye Of The Needle' and emerge on the patriarchy side as a naked and powerless victim trying to fight for position and power in a despicable "I win, you lose", winner-takes-all, "Whoever dies with the most toys, wins," survival game. Since it happened so fast at birth, you forget for a long time that anything else is possible.

Perhaps after decades you grow weary of being so adaptive, being so numb, being so disconnected. If you do not die of addictions, diseases, or suicide, your heart may cry out regardless of the consequences. You may continue to suppress its unheard and unfelt pains, or you may start asking questions that none of your friends have answers to. This can bring you to the edge of modern culture. Only at its edge can you see that something else is possible.

You could start over. You could go back to zero, pick up what you dropped at birth, help create something besides capitalist patriarchal empire on Earth. But men cannot exit the patriarchy except by the same way they got in: through the Eye Of The Needle. This means dropping everything the patriarchy has given you: position, wealth, possessions, fame, trophies, rewards... going back to the naked baby with nothing, returning to your origins and beginning again.

Nothing else will be true. No one can do it for you. Will you do it?

We will see.

If a person has been abused...

- and our theory is that essentially everyone has been abused in some way by someone -

and, if the abuse has not been healed as a matter of course during Authentic Adulthood and Archetypal Initiatory Processes that would commence in all fierceness when you reach 18 years of age...

- which, if you are an adherent to modern culture, will not have happened because Adulthood Initiations were banished from modern culture some 6000 years ago -

then, you needed to figure out some way to survive:

• Sending away parts of your energetic body.
• Getting revenge.
• Use sexual energy to control and manipulate // White Widow
• Being a ruined person.
• Hiding out and being afraid.
• Making yourself too ugly to be attractive.
• Hating women / men.
• Hating Authority.
• Hierarchical thinking.
• Refusing to Stand Up.
• Refusing to Stand Out.
• Forgetting that it ever happened...

"In a world where it is possible to experience something like sexual abuse, the only option for me was to forget those experiences immediately and forever. I buried them deep. It was a matter of life and death. It was a matter of my survival."

Martina-Riccarda Niklis

Read the whole article, titled: ABOUT DIGNITY

We are not pretending to have researched the global field of Sexual Abuse therapies. Since the consequences of Sexual Abuse can be so devastating, many people have tried and are trying many different approaches.

What we do know is that modern culture is saturated with assumptions and perspectives originating in 'Psychoanalysis' and 'Psychotherapy' as described by Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung. The best results hoped for in this psychoanalytical context is 'to understand'. The idea is that if you understand what happened to you then you can be free of it.

We are finding that intellectually understanding what happened is not sufficient to heal abuse.

Even 15 years of psychoanalysis does not seem to create healing in 5 Bodies (physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic, and archetypal). It does not seem to initiate a person into Adulthood, complete a person's emotions, allow them to take responsibility, nor jack-them-in to inner and outer resources they would need to provide the services to the village that they came here to deliver.

Why is psychotherapy insufficient? Our theory is that psychotherapy focuses on addressing the intellectual body. Any feelings or emotions that a Client has go unaddressed, or even viewed as 'problematical' and suppressed with prescriptions for psychopharmaceuticals to make the emotions go away because the psychotherapist has neither Stellated their 4 Feelings Archetypes, nor developed the skills to Inner Navigate their own Feelings and Emotions, so these are regarded with unconscious fear and left to fester. The psychotherapist is unable to facilitate the completion of incomplete emotions, a central catalyst in healing from Sexual Abuse.

Something entirely different from psychotherapy is necessary to heal Sexual Abuse. Fortunately, something completely different from this is possible...

You may try to keep your 'identity' secret, or you may wear your identity on your shoulder like a brick, or like a badge on your lapel.

Whatever you identify yourself with in your Being strongly influences how the Universe interacts with you.

You can change the way the universe interacts with you by changing your identity.

However, changing your identity is not accomplished through 'positive thinking', by making 'affirmations', or even by posting notes to yourself on your refrigerator.

Identity shift occurs at the level of your Being.

Identity shift starts with Relocating Your Point Of Origin.

The previous identity is "I am an abused person. I have been abused. Someone abused me."

Yes, historically, this may have been the facts.

And, are you the same person now who you were back then?

If you have learned new skills, can make new experiential distinctions, activated new inner and outer resources... how could it be that you could possibly regard yourself as being the same person?