How to heal it.

Everyone has been abused.

• PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE is when you fall down and your mother or school teacher says, "Nothing happened. It does not hurt." It is also Psychological Abuse when your mother says, "Just wait until your father gets home!" Or when your father is alcoholic and abusive and your mother does not leave him and take you with her. Psychological Abuse is when you are sent into a school system where false 'authorities' tell you what you should learn and when you should learn them, then they grade you while deceiving you about some kind of connection between 'good grades' and a 'good job'.
• EMOTIONAL ABUSE is when you feel sad or you feel scared and your father or uncle says, "Big boys don't cry. Indians feel no pain. Stop being a Scaredy Cat!" Or your mother says, "Don't spoil the mood, honey. Your make-up will run... you need to look pretty."
• ENERGETIC ABUSE is when your mother or father invade your Bubble Of Space in order to control and dominate you, when your privacy is not respected, or when you are forced to bow down to hierarchical 'authorities' in institutions such as a church, school, government, or business. 
• PHYSICAL ABUSE is when your family and institutions feed you sugary manufactured foods full of GMO corn syrup, artificial flavors, food colorings, and preservatives, and call it 'food', or when your mother hits you with a wooden spoon or your father hits you with a belt or his hand, or a 'teacher' or 'nun' hits you with a ruler or a stick, instead of responsibly dealing with their own unconscious Aggression, Reactivity, and Gremlin shit. (It is NOT true that negative attention is better than no attention at all...)
• Sexual Abuse is when your are forced or seduced into sexual energy exchange or sexual contact against your own will. Sexual Abuse is media, films, porn, and computer sex that plants images in your brain that are so strong and so far away from reality that you cannot have real sex anymore.

Abuse is so rampant in the capitalist patriarchal empire that it is the standard.

Especially Sexual Abuse.

There are two main reasons:

1. The unspoken Rules Of Engagement in any patriarchal Gameworld state: Men own women and children. Women and children are mere sex objects in the patriarchy. 
2. In patriarchal culture, both women and men remain uninitiated adolescents, no matter how old they are. Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes - which should begin when a human being reaches eighteen years of age - were banished from the patriarchy some 6000 years ago. You are not initiated into evolutionary Adulthood.

A third reason also helps explain the question: psychopaths. The governance bodies in modern civilization are all hierarchical. This is a design error, because hierarchical power structures automatically select for psychopathic behavior.

Why? Because psychopaths are those most skilled at doing 'whatever it takes' to climb up the power structure of any hierarchy. By now this should be painfully clear.

This also models how males are sexually abused in patriarchy. To bolster their failed identity, those further up the hierarchy sexually abuse those lower in the hierarchy. Think of priests and altar boys... hidden for so many decades...

What this means is that there is no hope of creating a better world within the patriarchy. Modern culture is functioning perfectly well, exactly as designed, and defending itself with police, corporate corrupted politicians, and the military.

No matter how many good-hearted intelligent proposals are submitted to government, they will never be implemented, because creating a bright future for humanity is not on the psychopathic agenda.

Abuse is the norm in patriarchy. Healing your sexual abuse will involve you personally exiting the patriarchy.

A male baby is forced to make a choice at birth: join the patriarchy, or die.

Why die? Because there is no other place for you. If you do not fit into the patriarchy, you are on your own.

Women have no idea about the extreme pain of the sacrifice of a boy's self, vision, future, if the boy chooses to join the patriarchy.

Some men try to de-masculate themselves in whatever way they can so that even though they are in the patriarchy they do not seem to be so bad as the rest of the men.

Some mothers try to help them... What other choice does a woman have? Either she can try to destroy the boy with ridicule, aggression, fear, hatred, and revenge. Or she can over-coddle him into being a 'nice boy', someone who would never do to a woman what so many men have done to her.

As a boy, you know which path your mother chose.

Having to make this patriarchy choice at birth causes such immense pain that many babies choose to die rather than endure giving up their life plan and live the false identity of being a patriarch in the patriarchy. Doctors call it 'sudden infant death syndrome' (SIDS). Now we know more about what is really going on.

Entering the patriarchy means to leave everything behind, gifts, treasures, your Pearl, your Bright Principles, your Archetypal Lineage, and then try to fit in. Be like the other 'men'. Abandon your desire for Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes. Play your role in the mafia, or fight to rise up in the command-and-control patriarchal hierarchies in society. The boy's future is to be part of the problem on planet Earth, abandoning any hope of being part of the changes that are so desperately needed now.

By leaving behind everything of value you become small enough to fit through the 'Eye Of The Needle' and emerge on the patriarchy side as a naked and powerless victim, facing a life of endless fighting fight for position and power in a despicable "I win, you lose", winner-takes-all, "Whoever dies with the most toys, wins," survival game. Since it happened so early at birth, you forget for a long time that anything else is possible.

Perhaps after decades you grow weary of being so adaptive, being so numb, being so disconnected. If you do not die of addictions, diseases, or suicide, your heart may eventually cry out regardless of the consequences that come from betraying the patriarchy. You may continue to suppress your unheard and unfelt pains, or you may start asking questions that none of your friends have answers to. This can bring you to the edge of modern culture. Only at its edge can you see that something else is possible.

From the view at the edge you discover that modern culture is not 'the best thing human beings ever invented' as it has been marketed to you. You see more options and somehow find a vague courage to start over. The idea comes of going back to zero, picking up what you dropped at birth, helping to create something besides capitalist patriarchal empire on Earth. But men cannot exit the patriarchy except by the same way they got in: through the Eye Of The Needle.

This means dropping every reward the patriarchy has ever given you: position, wealth, possessions, fame, trophies, rewards... going back to the naked baby with nothing, returning to your origins and beginning again.

Nothing else will be true. No one can do this for you. Will you do it?

We will see.

The Team members making this website do not pretend to have researched the global field of Sexual Abuse therapies. Since the consequences of Sexual Abuse are so devastating, many people have tried and are trying a great variety of approaches.

What we do know is that modern culture has for the past Century-and-a-half been saturated with assumptions and perspectives originating in the 'Psychoanalysis' and 'Psychotherapy' as described by Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung. The best results hoped for in this psychoanalytical context is 'to understand'. The idea is that if you understand what happened to you then you can be free of it.

We are finding that intellectually understanding what happened to you is not sufficient to heal abuse.

Even 15 years of psychoanalysis does not seem to create Healing in 5 Bodies (physical, intellectual, emotional, energetic, and archetypal). Psychoanalysis does not seem to Initiate you into Adulthood, complete your emotions, give you back your Voice and your Dignity. It does not Build-Matrix in you to take Radical Responsibility, nor jack-you-in to Inner Resources and Outer Resources you will need to provide the Services to the village that you came here to deliver.

Why is psychotherapy insufficient?

Our theory is that psychotherapy is a 150 year-old technology that focuses on addressing the intellectual body. Any feelings or emotions that a Client has go unaddressed, or are even viewed as 'problematical' by the psychotherapist, and are 'suppressed' with prescriptions for psychopharmaceuticals to make the emotions go away... because the psychotherapist has not learned how to feel.

Psychotherapy does not require that a psychotherapist Stellate their 4 Feelings Archetypes. Nor is the psychotherapist required to develope the skills to Inner Navigate their own Feelings and Emotions. The psychotherapist is forced to regard all these experiences with unconscious fear and absent-mindedly leaves them to fester.

The psychotherapist is therefore unable to facilitate the completion of incomplete emotions from sexual or other types of abuse, because their own emotions remain unhealed.

Something entirely different from psychotherapy is necessary to heal Sexual Abuse.

Fortunately, now, something completely different from this is possible...

Modern culture trains us to avoid responsibility. The heroes of modern culture are those who make the most money in whatever way they can, offshore bank accounts, hide behind corporations and lobbyists and tax loopholes. Make a 'profit' by externalizing true costs to future generations, the environment, or less defended 'third-world' countries.

Us saying here that your healing and freedom lies along the path of taking responsibility for being abused probably sounds worse than insane. If so, it indicates you are using modern culture's Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware (S.H.I.T.) about 'responsibility'.

In modern culture, 'responsibility' is regarded as a burden. If you take responsibility you will be punished. You have to pay. You will be blamed. You must clean up the mess. Anyone who takes responsibility is either stupid or naïve. You are taught that responsibility should be avoided.

It turns out that there are 5 Degrees Of Responsibility that you can take in the interactions and gameworlds of your life.

1. NO RESPONSIBILITY Live under a bridge or in a prison cell with 3 meals a day plus clean sheets once a week provided by the prison system. Take care of nothing. Pay for nothing. Others take care of you and you complain and blame. Keep walking away from responsibility.
2. CHILD RESPONSIBILITY You make messes. Other people must clean them up. Modern culture is centered directly on Child Level Responsibility because it makes huge messes with no intention at all of ever cleaning them up. This is our role model. Even top people in global hierarchies (church, government, corporation, education, military, medicine, etc.) are uninitiated adolescent children.
3. ADULT RESPONSIBILITY Take your 'fair share' of responsibility. Make sure the balance is correct according to how much you should pay and how much each of the other people should pay. If you cannot figure it out then go to court.
4. HIGH RESPONSIBILITY Become more of a Guardian of spaces, relationships, and gameworlds. Sometimes you pick up the trash even if you did not drop it because it makes a nicer sidewalk. Live from the perspective that life is not always fair, and be big enough to deal with it. 
5. RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY Place yourself in the position that it is impossible to be a Victim. Irresponsibility is an illusion. There is no such thing as a problem until you name it that. What is, is. Everything is neutral, with no stories attached. You are the source. You get to decide. You are the cause of everything that occurs. 

• Taking back your Center.
• Taking back your Space.
• Taking back your Authority.
• Taking back your 5 Bodies.
• Taking back your Conscious Feelings and Emotions.
• Taking back your Voice.
• Taking back your Gremlin (Your Gremlin, Gremlin Hunter, Gremlin Reconstruction).
• Taking back your Teams. 
• Consciously using your 3 Powers:  Declaring, Choosing, and Asking.
• Conscious Will.
• Consciously Holding Space and Consciously Navigating Space
• Consciously generating your own personal bubble of Culture and fully respecting it.
• Creating necessity for Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes.
• Living Full Out.
• High Level Fun.
• Your Quest.

You may try to keep your 'identity' secret, or you may wear your identity on your shoulder like a brick, or like a badge on your lapel.

Whatever you identify yourself with in your Being strongly influences how the Universe interacts with you.

You can change the way the universe interacts with you by changing your identity.

However, changing your identity is not accomplished through 'positive thinking', by making 'affirmations', or even by posting notes to yourself on your refrigerator.

Identity shift occurs at the level of your Being.

Identity shift starts with Relocating Your Point Of Origin.

The previous identity is "I am an abused person. I have been abused. Someone abused me."

Yes, historically, this may have been the facts.

And, are you the same person now who you were back then?

If you have learned new skills, can make new experiential distinctions, activated new inner and outer resources... how could it be that you could possibly regard yourself as being the same person?